(with apologies to “Love Story”!)
I found myself reacting snarkily to all the end of year look-back (“Best/Worst of 2009”) posts and newspaper articles. It felt almost too self-indulgent – as if we were afraid to let another year go by without analyzing it to death. Especially as it was a year that many were happy to see the back of. When I experience negative reactions like that, I know a question is roiling around inside.
I spent some time trying to uncover what was bothering me. I found myself wondering how a Buddhist would approach year’s end. I ended up with this question: What DON’T I want in 2010?
My short list looks like this:
- I don’t want to miss out on more of my child’s life than I need to (allowing for some healthy separation!!)
- I don’t want to spin my wheels doing stuff that others could do more effectively and efficiently for me.
- I don’t want to let one day slip by without acknowledging at least one good thing and one accomplishment during my waking hours.
- I don’t want anyone else defining my accomplishments. Only I get to decide what they are and aren’t.
- I don’t want to lose valuable time and momentum berating myself for my flaws and failings, unless it is truly essential (what do you think of this one, Tiger Woods?)
- I don’t want to choose based on fear!
Okay, so I’ve let go of 2009, and I am eager for 2010.
What about you?
If you too are ready for some letting go, perhaps these questions will help:
- What can I cross off my list today, because:
a. it isn’t important
b. someone can do it better?
- If my world was to end a year from today, what would I stop doing right away?
- What feelings (anger, guilt, remorse, regret, shame) do I want to let go of to free myself to enjoy my work and life more?
- What can I do to slow down today?
- What distractions do I need to eliminate in order to accomplish one important goal?
May 2010 be your best year yet!!